Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself

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by: J.S. (PICKERINGTON, OH, US)
on: Friday, 22-October-2010

I am still reading this book, but so far, almost paragraph applies to what I am going through & how to approach it. This is so helpful!

by: Emeline (United States)
on: Tuesday, 19-October-2010

I highly recommend this book to anyone because I think there is a little bit of co-dependency in the majority of us. This author has a strong background with alcoholics, and although I have no history of alcoholism in my family, the author did a great job of allowing the reader to identify with the traits of a person with an addiction. This book allowed me to identify issues that I need to overcome for myself as well as being able to work with others who have the traits of a co-dependent. The author is organized in her thoughts and translates it to paper beautifully. I also really like how a Christian author found a strong balance of conveying her message to all readers without sounding preachy. The author is genuine and did a really great job.

by: Kevin (United States)
on: Monday, 4-October-2010

It amazed me how much identifiable information there was in this book. Every chapter spoke to me. Its a must for those who are just discovering their codependancy.

by: Ryan Steven Lekan (Kennesaw, GA)
on: Saturday, 25-September-2010

I received the book in a very quick manner. Much quicker than the estimated delivery time. The book had a little bit of water damage; although, when I bought it the book was stated to be in only good condition. A note concerning the water damage could have been put in the notes about the book.

by: Linda F. Peabody (Oklahoma)
on: Monday, 20-September-2010

The book arrived quickly and was in the great shape it was stated to be when I purchased it. The books message is as relevant now as it was when I read my first copy in the early 80s.

by: Book Junkie (United States)
on: Monday, 9-August-2010

I know it is cliché but, this book has changed my life and my thinking. This book made me realize that I have a voice and an opinion and both matter just as much as the next person. I realized that I can make decisions and not have to worry if my opinion is what other people may think or want. My opinion is exactly that...my opinion. It is okay to have an opinion that is different than someone elses. When I first read this book, I figure that I would not post my feelings about it because they were too personal. I very highly recommend this book, not just for people who live with an alcoholic, but for anyone who is trying desperately hard to fix a bad relationship, whether its with your spouse, your parents, and your children. With anyone you love. Its pretty amazing for anyone who has struggled to figure out why they often care-take other people but feel guilty taking care of themselves. An eye-opening book that reveals many of the behaviors one adopts to handle living with someone with addiction problems, or as in my case, mental-health issues. I never realized the extent to which my relationship warped me, to some extent my fault for allowing it to happen, but the book also presented a lot of ways to come to an understanding of what it means to be a codependent and also ways to combat and correct behavior. This is one of the most life-changing books Ive ever read. It has changed my life for good and I highly recommended this book to all readers.

by: David Mark Rice (United States)
on: Thursday, 22-July-2010

This book is a great place to start if you feel like you have an abusive relationship in your life and you dont know how to handle it. My wife was recommended this book because her relationship with her parents has turned her into a codependent, and its done wonders in opening her eyes. We read the book together and it helped us to understand what feelings are ok, how to handle unpleasant situations, and how to detach ourselves from the manipulation of others. Melody Beattie isnt a psychiatrist or a Ph.D., so she isnt as well versed in the technical jargon as a psychotherapist, but she has a great deal of life experience as both a councilor and a codependent. This allows her the unique ability to speak in down-to-earth, easy to understand language that lets her connect with her readers. The audio version was great, I really enjoyed listening to it. I gave this book 4 stars because its not going to work for everyone. Melody Beattie is a big advocate of 12 step programs, but there are other ways to handle situations as well. So I dont think that you are going to find all the answers in this book, but it will definitely give you some good advice on how to handle abusive relationships, and most importantly it will help you start to realize that things can change, even for you. It has some similar ideas and themes to Brilliant Sanity: Buddhist Approaches to Psychotherapy and The 5 Laws That Determine All of Lifes Outcomes

by: Mandy (United States)
on: Tuesday, 20-July-2010

The book is a very good read and is definatly worth a look.

Its a self help book and is very imformative on how to deal with the aspect of helping and living with a person with addiction. It also helps you see that you are just as important in the grand scheme of things as your partner,brother, sister etc....especially when you are the one dealing with all their problems...

by: lady reader (United States)
on: Tuesday, 13-July-2010

while this may be a hard read, due to digging deep internally, it is an excellent tool for learning about yourself and learning healthier ways to be in relations with those in your life

by: Micheleebee (Detroit, MI)
on: Friday, 25-June-2010

This book and the follow-up books to this series were an amazing eye opener into destructive, counter-productive behaviors that shaped my choices in relationships.

What I love about this book are the countless real-life examples that resounded of patterns occurring in my own life. Reading these books combined with therapy have helped me to recognize why and how Ive found myself in similar relationships at different times.

My wish is for others who are in this co-dependent role to find the courage to read these books. The revelations have been painful to say the least but I am a better woman for it, am able to recognize how my behaviors contribute to the dysfunction and assist me in making positive changes in my life.

by: John K (Santa Clara, CA USA)
on: Monday, 21-June-2010

If your life revolves around your spouse/partners problems, do yourself a big favor and read this book.

by: Moon Girl (Kansas City, USA)
on: Tuesday, 1-June-2010

This book changed my life. I share this book with everyone, whether I think they are codependent or not, simply because the information and tools are so incredibly helpful and healing. Not only did the material help me gain insight to my own behaviors, but it also made me feel understood and not alone in my problem. There is so much here that I will read this book over and over.

by: Rick Barksdale (St. John, USVI)
on: Monday, 31-May-2010

Product was delivered in condition promised. When delivery took longer than expected, merchant responded quickly and offered several remedies, including sending duplicate which was unnecessary. Product came in a few days late, due to NO action on the part of merchant (SLOW MAIL) to where I live. All in all, a pleasant experience with merchant. The most important comment: Id gladly use this merchant again!

by: Frantic Organic (Mother Earth)
on: Tuesday, 25-May-2010

Reknowned best seller for codependence. Easy to comprehend and put to work in your every day life. Informative & useful.

by: Sharon (Waxhaw, NC)
on: Sunday, 23-May-2010

My counselor recommended this book, and Ive not finished all the exercises at the chapter endings, but the book does enlighten me and provides good discussion topics. I did not even realize that the authors writing was not just for the enabler in denial, who was trying to cope with life with a substance abuser, be it alcohol, drugs, etc. The reading keeps my attention, and I like it enough to consider subsequent purchases by Melody Beattie. I also plan to share this book with friends, whom I feel would benefit from reading it. I consider this book a very worthwhile purchase. Sharon

by: Diana Horne (NEWARK, NJ, US)
on: Thursday, 20-May-2010

This book has made a significant impact in my life. Be prepared for some resistance. People may have trouble with change. I recommend everyone read this book. Especially if you are living with someone with a cronic illness or other desease.

by: Theresa M. Puckett (Columbia Tn)
on: Monday, 26-April-2010

I had a good experience with the seller. My book came quickly and in the condition promised!

by: T. Goodpaster (United States)
on: Thursday, 22-April-2010

This book is the best I have read on the subject of codependency. It is very helpful and gives you ways to understand the problem and improve your life.
I will always keep it for future reference and re-read it as I feel the need to.
A must have!!

by: Sheryl D. Beil (Weston, FL)
on: Saturday, 17-April-2010

This book makes sense to me, it is written in an style that you dont have to be a Rhodes Scholar to understand. Im almost through my first read of it, and Im going back with a highlighter next time and some post-its for places I want to discuss with others.

by: Brigitte M. Lozano (United States)
on: Friday, 16-April-2010

This is a great book for Codependent people which is a lot of us in this life. God bless Melody Beattie.